Do You Make These 16 Mistakes of Utterly Uncoachable People?
Wednesday, November 04, 2009 - posted by hellomynameisscott at 8:40 AM
When you’re not coachable, you’re not able to see yourself fully and objectively.When you’re not able to see yourself fully and objectively, you’re not able to maximize learning.
When you’re not able to maximize learning, you’re not able to grow.
When you’re not able to grow, you’re not able to win.
LESSON LEARNED: Those who are coachable are profitable.
Now, instead of coaching you on how to become more coachable (I’m sure Google could do that for you) let’s approach this issue counterintuitively.
I’ve compiled a list of mistakes made by utterly uncoachable people. Special thanks to a few of my favorite coach-ey friends Dixie Gillaspie and Angela Leib for their brainstorms...
You Might be an Utterly Uncoachable Person If…
1. You allow emotional reactivity to block helpful feedback from entering your world.
2. You endlessly assert your ego by telling the coach he was wrong.
3. You begin every sentence with, “Yeah but…”
4. You complain that the coach is unfairly singling you out.
5. You constantly challenge the credibility of the coach.
6. You refuse to be open your behavior to review.
7. You aren’t receptive to feedback.
8. You don’t follow up after you’ve been given help.
9. You evade responsibility that change starts with you.
10. You limit yourself to only one outcome for every situation.
11. You listen thoroughly to people’s advice, and then go back to what you were going to do in the first place.
12. You object to feedback and shut down your coach via emotional reactivity.
13. You request advice for the sole purpose of NOT following it.
14. You rattle off a list of successful people that never needed coaches.
15. You refuse to follow the coach’s advice out of spite, even if the path leads to success.
16. You refuse to learn things about yourself that you’ve never seen before.
Make sure you’ve avoiding these mistakes at all cost, and you’ll have a tremendous head start on boosting your coachability.
In summary, let’s turn to a 2009 post from Seth Godin, who had this to say on being coachable:
“In fluid marketing and organization environments, where the world changes rapidly, coachability is a key factor in evolving and succeeding. Not because all advice is good advice. In fact, most advice is lousy advice. No, the reason coachability is so crucial is that without it, you don't have the emotional maturity to consider whether the advice is good or not. You reject the process out of hand, and end up stuck.”
REMEMBER: Becoming coachable leads to becoming profitable.
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Scott - I printed this one out and plan to take it with me to my mentoring program tonight. Great and useful stuff. I think I can allow them to see what behaviors and philosophies are holding them back from achieving more than they can dream possible. Your quote from Godin and the post in general reminds me of one from Herbert Spencer, a British philosopher: "There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance--that principle is contempt prior to investigation."
I 100% agree with your first three points, with out these things you can't be succesful person in the life.
I agree that you can't have the real objective with out any guidelines, I hope lot of guys visiting here will have the real objective from your post.
When you are not fit for doing something properly don't even think about it.
Every one has the ability to learn from his/ her teacher, the only thing you need to have the "just keep yourself committed."
I was looking for myself in these mistakes and I THINK I'm coachable for the most part. One or two produced a reaction in my body, so they're the ones I need to be aware of.
Thanks for the insights.